Best of charities
أَفْضَلُ الصَّدَقَةِ أَنْ تَتَصَدَّقَ وَأَنْتَ صَحِيحٌ شَحِيحٌ، تَخْشَى الْفَقْرَ وَتَأْمُلُ الْغِنَى
Afdalu-s-sadaqati an tatasaddaqa wa anta sahihun shahih, takhsha-l-faqra wa ta'mulu-l-ghina.
"The best charity is what you give while you are healthy and stingy, fearing poverty and hoping for wealth."
Narrated by Abu Hurayrah. Sahih al-Bukhari 1419, Sahih Muslim 1032
A short reflection
Giving when it hurts, when you're counting, when you're worried, that's where the weight lives.